When all the appointed people had entered, the king called on a man in the town that was known for always saying the truth(no matter who was concerned), when he was called upon everyone booed him. He went in spent a lot of time inside and when he finally came out, he told the everyone he didnt see any being inside, that all he saw was chairs and tables, everyone started aughing and making jest of him.
Then the king called for decorum, he cleared his throat and then he told the whole town that he had wanted to test the sincerity of the rich people he chose, that there was no angel anywhere(in the house) and he just wanted to see those that would stand for the truth.
Most often we do things based on what the majority are doing or what they would think, not that one should be an outcast or an anti-societist but it would be good when we ask ourselves these questions when taking decisions, why must i do this? If i must do it, why am i doing it? Am i doing this cause its the right thing to do, or its what i want?
There was a time that a cantonment exploded in my state, so there was series of explosions and most people didnt know what was happening. Some people on hearing the blasts started running, within few minutes there were over a hundred people running, following those they saw running without thinking of where the blasts was from or where those that were running were going, about twenty-something of them ran into quicksand.
Whatever we do, lets be sure we want to do it, know how we want to go about it.
Saturday, October 10, 2009
Sunday, October 4, 2009
Crowd mentality pt 1
Once upon a time in a little town, the king of the town called on his people and told them an angel was in a particular house in the city, that only righteous and holy people could see the angel. That if anyone was interested in seeing the angel, they would be given audience on a particular date he chose. Everyone wanted to participate but since they were too many, the king said only the elites and rich people of the town would be given the opportunity.
On the chosen day everyone gathered and the ones that had been selected to go see the angel were prepared.
The first man entered, spent 5 minutes inside and came out, he told everyone he had seen the angel, that the angel told him about how to make his businesses better, he told him to thank the king and to tell everyone that good things were coming to the town soon. The second man also went in, spent few minutes, came out and he told everyone that he had also seen the angel, that the angel told him about his nearest future, his enemies, things he should for the town. This went on till all the chosen people had entered.
To be continued....
On the chosen day everyone gathered and the ones that had been selected to go see the angel were prepared.
The first man entered, spent 5 minutes inside and came out, he told everyone he had seen the angel, that the angel told him about how to make his businesses better, he told him to thank the king and to tell everyone that good things were coming to the town soon. The second man also went in, spent few minutes, came out and he told everyone that he had also seen the angel, that the angel told him about his nearest future, his enemies, things he should for the town. This went on till all the chosen people had entered.
To be continued....
Different meanings
One of life's major problems is the fact that a single idea, action, event, speech, e.t.c. can have different meanings. Acknowledging and being consciuos of this fact makes it a easier to face situations in our lives, how?
Most things in life are in pairs, good and bad, male and female, sweet and bitter, and so on. Nature has it that humans would easily tend to the negative side of each pair but knowing and being concious of these facts, when faced with any situation or in whatever instance one should consider the different meanings that can be infered and choose the positive ones because when one thinks positively one has better chances of being happy and being happy puts one at his/her best.
Most things in life are in pairs, good and bad, male and female, sweet and bitter, and so on. Nature has it that humans would easily tend to the negative side of each pair but knowing and being concious of these facts, when faced with any situation or in whatever instance one should consider the different meanings that can be infered and choose the positive ones because when one thinks positively one has better chances of being happy and being happy puts one at his/her best.
Saturday, September 26, 2009
Self-esteem
Am short, am too tall, am not eloquent, am not educated, i cant do it, am not so intelligent, he/she is better, am not so good and so on and on. Most often we hear or say such words, though its good to know ones shortcomings and be truthfull to onesself. Yet still some things go on behind the scenes that we dont notice. The mind takes these self proclamations and works on them.
Why would one look down on himself or herself? We measure our qualities through the eyes of others. We so much rely on others for our gratification, that a negative statement about our person from someone may spoil our mood and destroy our motivations. When we aren't aware of this great power we give to others over our lives, we tend to want to please them at the expense of doing what is right and pleasing to us.
Self esteem is being happy with ones own characters and abilities. Every human being have their own abilities and disabilties. When one declares his/her disabilities as an excuse of not being able to do something, the mind picks this as a reference and reminds one of it everytime one attempts any task similar to the one it made the reference from.
What happens when we do something and people commend us and tell us they like how we did it and what we did. We tend to want to continue and we feel happy doing what we recieved commendation for. The mind records the feeling of joy for the task and uses that as a reference everytime the task is thought of, thus a happy feeling is felt when thinking about or planning for the task.
Dont use my disabilties as an excuse, dont rely on others for commendation, what more? Be yourself, remind yourself of past glories,learn to be better in the things you are good in, be a fan of yourself and think positive of yourself.
Why would one look down on himself or herself? We measure our qualities through the eyes of others. We so much rely on others for our gratification, that a negative statement about our person from someone may spoil our mood and destroy our motivations. When we aren't aware of this great power we give to others over our lives, we tend to want to please them at the expense of doing what is right and pleasing to us.
Self esteem is being happy with ones own characters and abilities. Every human being have their own abilities and disabilties. When one declares his/her disabilities as an excuse of not being able to do something, the mind picks this as a reference and reminds one of it everytime one attempts any task similar to the one it made the reference from.
What happens when we do something and people commend us and tell us they like how we did it and what we did. We tend to want to continue and we feel happy doing what we recieved commendation for. The mind records the feeling of joy for the task and uses that as a reference everytime the task is thought of, thus a happy feeling is felt when thinking about or planning for the task.
Dont use my disabilties as an excuse, dont rely on others for commendation, what more? Be yourself, remind yourself of past glories,learn to be better in the things you are good in, be a fan of yourself and think positive of yourself.
Sunday, September 20, 2009
Achieving goals
Towards the end of every year, most people make new year resolutions, they would stop doing this, this and this, they would start doing that, that and that, but before the end of the second month most of the resolutions wouldn't be remembered, this is an instance of what happens when we set goals.
Its good to dream big, its good to have goals, its good to think, then visualize things we want to have, what we want to be, what we want to look like. Setting goals is good but how many of the goals we set 5 years ago have we achieved. Yes, we would have achieved some things within that period but are they what we planned.
When we set goals lets make plans of how to bring the goals to reality. Then how do we plan to bring how goals to reality? Of course we would do things that would lead to the accomplishment of those goals. Using having a muscular figure as an example. Having a muscular figure is the goal. In achieving this goal some would plan to go to the gym everyday, workout for 3 hours. This plan is good but it would only work if one can stick to it, which is almost impossible, even if one tries it would be over-strenous and after the first week, the goal of having a muscular figure would be dropped. Why?
Most goals we set, in achieving them we over-plan, so we could achieve them really fast but we end up not achieving anything at all. When making plans to achieve any goal, it would be good to break down the goals into stages or spread them over time. Make the first stage too easy, be an under-achiever, make it too convenient. By doing this getting used to the process of achieving the goal would be very easy.
It is said that every journey begins with a step. A step from your room, to the door, then till you get to your car. First you start by walking, then you board your car, even in your car you don't start with the highest gear, you start from the lowest gear then progress steadily. By applying this analogy to making plans in achieving our goals or dreams, achieving them would be really easy and we wouldn't even be conscious of it when we achieve them.
Its good to dream big, its good to have goals, its good to think, then visualize things we want to have, what we want to be, what we want to look like. Setting goals is good but how many of the goals we set 5 years ago have we achieved. Yes, we would have achieved some things within that period but are they what we planned.
When we set goals lets make plans of how to bring the goals to reality. Then how do we plan to bring how goals to reality? Of course we would do things that would lead to the accomplishment of those goals. Using having a muscular figure as an example. Having a muscular figure is the goal. In achieving this goal some would plan to go to the gym everyday, workout for 3 hours. This plan is good but it would only work if one can stick to it, which is almost impossible, even if one tries it would be over-strenous and after the first week, the goal of having a muscular figure would be dropped. Why?
Most goals we set, in achieving them we over-plan, so we could achieve them really fast but we end up not achieving anything at all. When making plans to achieve any goal, it would be good to break down the goals into stages or spread them over time. Make the first stage too easy, be an under-achiever, make it too convenient. By doing this getting used to the process of achieving the goal would be very easy.
It is said that every journey begins with a step. A step from your room, to the door, then till you get to your car. First you start by walking, then you board your car, even in your car you don't start with the highest gear, you start from the lowest gear then progress steadily. By applying this analogy to making plans in achieving our goals or dreams, achieving them would be really easy and we wouldn't even be conscious of it when we achieve them.
Saturday, September 19, 2009
Relationships - myself and the other person
At times in our relations with others, be it our friends, spouse, siblings, co-workers, neigbhours or anyone,we get offended or see them behave in ways we see as not acceptable to us. This raises our emotions, we feel bad or annoyed, we feel everything is wrong with the other person.
Then we either avoid the person or rather set out to change the person. Avoiding the person shouldn't be a good option and trying to change the person might not work out.
Most often the way people behave towards us are a result of the things we do, or the way he/she perceives our person. So what do we do or what can we do?
Instead of being bitter, it would be better to check ourselves and see things from an outsiders view (look at the matter without prefrence for any side -you or the person- ). If after this we find ourselves wrong in anyway, lets make ammends, change the wrong things for the better.
If nothing seems wrong with our deeds, it wouldn't be good to just bottle up and keep things within us, keeping things that hurt us within us, makes one feel worse, expressing them anyhow makes one feel guilty afterwards. So what would be right to do, calm down, find a time when you are in a light mood and express yourself gently to the person, dont let the discussion lead to an argument, avoid that as much as possible, listen when the person raises a point.
Most often the person would listen (find one excuse or the other), then apologise.
Then we either avoid the person or rather set out to change the person. Avoiding the person shouldn't be a good option and trying to change the person might not work out.
Most often the way people behave towards us are a result of the things we do, or the way he/she perceives our person. So what do we do or what can we do?
Instead of being bitter, it would be better to check ourselves and see things from an outsiders view (look at the matter without prefrence for any side -you or the person- ). If after this we find ourselves wrong in anyway, lets make ammends, change the wrong things for the better.
If nothing seems wrong with our deeds, it wouldn't be good to just bottle up and keep things within us, keeping things that hurt us within us, makes one feel worse, expressing them anyhow makes one feel guilty afterwards. So what would be right to do, calm down, find a time when you are in a light mood and express yourself gently to the person, dont let the discussion lead to an argument, avoid that as much as possible, listen when the person raises a point.
Most often the person would listen (find one excuse or the other), then apologise.
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Perception
Perception can be defined as way of viewing, insight or intuition, ability to perceive. Perception in each and everybody differs, the way we see things that occur to us differ and the way we see things affect our mind state and actions.
Perception affects every aspect of our life, the way we see different events that occur in our lives affect the way we react to them and thus affects our standings in life.
Using failure as an example, some people would see failure as a challenge, as something that is a test of their plans, activities, a reason to re-plan and work harder, while some would see failure as a reason to leave, to stop, a determiner of the impossible and a confirmation of them not being able to accomplish.
The first would form a better plan and make adjustments to the mistakes committed earlier, while the latter would be bitter and would have to start all over again. The difference between them both is their perception, the way they accepted failure and this affected their next action and their nearest future.
Perception is an important factor that matters in our life, whenever anything happens or we feel anything lets think within ourselves, is what am thinking right? Am i to gain anything from my planned actions? What am i gonna lose? And what are the other ways i can go about the matter? Doing the above would safe-guard against being too over-reactive, acting out of other and adjusting ones thought to the right things.
Perception affects every aspect of our life, the way we see different events that occur in our lives affect the way we react to them and thus affects our standings in life.
Using failure as an example, some people would see failure as a challenge, as something that is a test of their plans, activities, a reason to re-plan and work harder, while some would see failure as a reason to leave, to stop, a determiner of the impossible and a confirmation of them not being able to accomplish.
The first would form a better plan and make adjustments to the mistakes committed earlier, while the latter would be bitter and would have to start all over again. The difference between them both is their perception, the way they accepted failure and this affected their next action and their nearest future.
Perception is an important factor that matters in our life, whenever anything happens or we feel anything lets think within ourselves, is what am thinking right? Am i to gain anything from my planned actions? What am i gonna lose? And what are the other ways i can go about the matter? Doing the above would safe-guard against being too over-reactive, acting out of other and adjusting ones thought to the right things.
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